When you are thinking of making changes in your life, all too often you look externally.
Whenever you wait for certain things, people, or conditions to be in place to be happy, what do you do in the meantime?
I will be happy when my wife cooks more often or I'll be happier if my husband were more romantic. Or I will be happy when my children start listening to what I say and stop sassing me every time I turn around. Or I'd be very happy at work if my boss would just recognize the contributions I make. This is when you want other people to match up to the perfect world you have created in your mind.
Then, there are those situations when you make your happiness contingent on certain things. I will be happy if I made more money. I can't make more money until I finish my degree. I will be happy when l can have my own home. I will be happy if I can get a new job. I will be happy when my parents are healthy. Again, I ask, What does one do in the meantime?
While it is perfectly acceptable to hope for things to be different in your life and to strive to improve and make things better, it's unacceptable to waste your life on negative emotions. There is a saying that you are what you think about and that what you keep in mind expands. So, if you are always focused on the negatives and the things you lack, then you will attract more negatives into yours.
However, if you focus on the positive and what you have that's good and helpful, then you will attract more positive things into your life. Which would you rather have?
Then you must begin to change your thinking. You have almost total control over your thinking.
I know there are unwelcome thoughts that intrude on your consciousness every day. However, you have the power once they are there to focus your mind elsewhere. All you need is to have a plan in place that whenever I think about X, Y, and Z things I don't want occupying my mind then, I will think about A, B, and C things I want. Focus on any positive experience past, present, or future.
So why do you have to be the one who changes when it is obvious that the other person is the one with the problem.
Inside Out Empowerment helps you put the ownership of a problem where it belongs with whoever is the most upset about it.
If you are angry because your husband doesn't take the trash out on time, then which one of you is the most upset with the situation? You are it's your problem. Your husband probably doesn't even notice that the garbage is an issue.
If you are certain your boss is a controlling arrogant jerk, do you think he or she is lying awake at night trying to figure out how to be more sensitive? Most likely not.
He or she is not even acknowledging a problem. Fixing the problem comes with correct problem attribution. Whose problem is it? Problems belong to the one most disturbed by them and it is that person's job to seek the solution. Learn to seek your solution.
Most of the human suffering is our resistance to what exists in our life. We become quite power hungry trying to change others to meet our needs.
What would happen if you simply accepted everyone where they are without exception? What if you recognized that things are already perfect just the way they are? Could you be more content and happier with the life situations that already exist?
Inside Out Empowerment teaches us first to attribute the problem to the correct individual and then work with the problem owner at adjusting his or her behavior.
This allows the unhappy person to be in the driver's seat with his or her own emotions. Starting from the inside out, people empower themselves by adjusting their thoughts and behavior to manage whatever life throws at them.
Inside Out Empowerment is such a powerful way to unleash your power in a big way. What are you waiting for?
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